Love believes the best and hopes for the best...

"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

In the deep and private corridors of your Heart, there is a room, a room called Appreciation. It`s a room where your thoughts go when you encounter positive and encouraging things about that Special Precious Person in your life. Every so often, you enjoy visiting this special place in your Heart.
On the walls of this room are written kind words and phrases discribing the good attributes of the special one next to you. These may include characteristics like "Honest", "Integrity", “Emotional,” “Passionate,” “Special” or phrases like “Romantic Handsome One,” "Diligent Worker," "Wonderful Helper," "Beautiful Smile," "Warm Eyes," Gentle Touch," “Precious B, H, L,“ “Trust Worthy Heart,” etc. They`re things you`ve discovered about your Precious One next to your Heart that have embedded themselves in your memory. When you think about these things, your appreciation for that person begins to increase even when things are difficulte, communication somehow have become very hard and seems lost. In fact, the more time we spend meditating on these positive moments/attributes, the more greatful we are toward that special One`s Heart.

I know most of these things in the Appreciation Room were likely written in the initial stages of your relationship. Pictures were taken and have been place through out the walls of each other`s homes and care for one another was in the air around you 24/7. You could summarize them as things you liked and respected about your Loved One. They were True, Honorable and Good and we spent a great deal of time dwelling on them in this room... before we lost the conection with the other Heart. As life keep putting its own expectations on everyone of us we may have found that there are many times this special Room in our Hearts have not been visited as offten as we once did. Of course, that`s because there is another Room next door.

Down another darker corridor of our Hearts lies the Depreciation Room, and unfortunately we visit there as well. On its walls are written things that bother, irritate you about that Special One. Of course, they all were placed there out of frustration, hurt feelings, and disappointments of unmet desires. Desires of your Heart that some how have turned into Expectations! This Room is lined with the weaknesses and failures of your Loved One. Their hurtful words, bad habits, actions of panishment, poor decisions, and self centered comunication are written in large letters that cover the walls from one end to the other. Spending time in that Room devalues your Hearts toward that Special Precious One and leads to emotional injuries, Heart injuries that leads to fall out of LOVE.

Yes, we may say, "The things in the "D" Room are true!" Yes, but so are the things in the "A" Room. Everyone fails and has areas that need personal growth and clean up to do in their personal closet. I know that because I`m experiencing everything right now and I have failed as well! Everyone has personal baggage, hurts and unresolved issues. I`m one of them! That is the sad aspect of being Human. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23

We do have this unfortunate tendency to downplay our own negative attributes while putting our precious partner`s failures under a magnifying glass. Matthew 7:3-4
And yes, I have done it as well and yes I`m the biggest siner of all, and yes we need to take responsibilities toward our own actions and the ways we do things and think how all that is going to impact that Special Precious One that is part of your life.

After all I have said in writing so far the real issue here is not the "D" Room we do visit. LOVE knows about the "D" Room and does not live in it. Keep running to the "D" Room after every frustrating event in your precious relationship it does you no good and surely will drain the joy out of your Heart and we forget the "A" Room. LOVE choose to believe the best and hope for the best about that Precious One that is in your life says God in 1Corin. 13:7 and gives the benefit of the doubt. Love will refuse to fill in the unknowns with all the writing in "D" Room. LOVE makes every effort to deal with them and LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the TRUTH. 1Corin. 13:6 LOVE always have to lead our focus and thoughts when comes to how to be there for that Special Precious Person that is part of your Heart when he/she glance in the door of the "D" Room. True LOVE is always willing to help when we should ever go in this "D" Room to write in huge letters across the walls "It`s COVERED IN LOVE."

As we are willing through LOVE to move toward the "A" Room we choose to learn that many more wonderful character qualities could be written across these walls about that Precious One that your Heavenly Father have placed into your life for a Reason, Season and/or not for a Lifetime! So many dreams and hopes have yet to be realized and abilities to be discovered like hidden treasures. Of course, it is a CHOICE that starts with a DECISION by you. It is a DECISION that you make, whether they deserve it or not. A Decision to recognize that your Special One is part to your future success is very important for the LOVE that you share. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you. When you ask, do ask with sincere and honest Heart and do make a decision that day to change something in your ways of doing things as well.

Someone has said the following:

"NO ONE falls in love by choice; it is by CHANCE. No one stays in love by chance; it is by WORK and DECISIONS... And no one falls out of love by chance; it is by CHOICE!"

Yes, God is our hope and strength in times like that, a very present help in trouble.
Psalm 46:1

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take Heart ! I have overcome the world !" John 16:33

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
Matthew 11:28 ; Psalm 50:15

Ephe. 4:32; Luke 6:31; 1Corin. 16:14
2Corin. 12:9a; 1Corin. 16:13-14

In His grip always, Loukan